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7 Toxic Traits in a Relationship

7 Toxic Traits in a Relationship

Kate Motaung2025-03-18T15:17:52+00:00July 28th, 2022|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Relationship Issues|

What does it take to have a healthy relationship – devoid of toxic traits – in which the people in it feel loved for who they are, and are given room to grow and express who God made them to be? People crave meaningful relationships, but this is far from simple to achieve because we bring our complicated histories, expectations, and weaknesses into our relationships. To have a healthy relationship thus requires the people in it to have a mature self-awareness, be capable of growth and change, and be willing to forgive the other from the heart. Though you may be in a toxic relationship, you may not be aware that the relationship has a toxic traits. Certain ways of relating to others may seem normal to you, and you may not even consider questioning those ways of thinking and being, or whether they’re good for you because they are part of a long-established pattern. Valencia Christian Counseling offers faith-based guidance to help individuals recognize unhealthy relationship patterns and find healing through biblical wisdom and support. On the other hand, the unhealthy dynamics in your relationship may be a recent development or one that exists in a particular relationship, such as with your spouse, children, or colleagues. Pinpointing these behaviors is the first step toward moving the relationship in a healthy direction. Toxic Traits to Watch for in a Relationship Constant conflict People argue. We have different outlooks on life – a wide variety of personalities, interests, expectations, desires, gifts, and capacities. Our differences don’t have to divide us, and our similarities should unite us, but it happens often enough that difference creates distance, and our similarities can cause friction. Two people in a relationship may want the same thing, but because they see different paths to get there, [...]

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When the World is an Angry Place: 23 Helpful Bible Verses about Anger

When the World is an Angry Place: 23 Helpful Bible Verses about Anger

Kate Motaung2025-03-18T15:42:30+00:00March 23rd, 2022|Anger Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Do you ever feel guilty for being angry over something you care about? Or do you find yourself feeling justified in your anger toward certain events or people? There’s no shortage of things that make us angry, and you don’t have to look far to find them. In response to political and social issues, everyday occurrences like bad traffic or being treated poorly by others, anger is a far too common reaction to the world around us. Add to that the stress that has been generated by being in a pandemic over the last few years, and we have a cocktail of worry and anger. And it’s not just Americans that have been feeling this way. According to the latest Gallup Global Emotions Report, in the last few years, the world has been a more worried and more stressed-out, sadder, and angrier place than it has been at any time in the past fifteen years. The Bible helps us to come to grips with the complexity of anger, helping us to understand the roots of our anger, as well as the devastating effects of our anger. While we learn from the following Bible verses about anger that God also gets stirred to wrath, we are shown that God gets angry because of sin and that he is slow to anger. Valencia Christian Counseling provides biblical guidance to help individuals manage anger in a healthy, Christ-centered way, fostering spiritual growth and emotional healing. The description of God’s character from Exodus 33:19, for example, emphasizes the merciful and gracious character of the Lord, whose steadfast love and forgiveness extend to thousands in contrast to the few upon whom he visits his anger. Our inclinations often run in the opposite direction. The Bible warns us that anger can be either righteous or sinful, [...]

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24 Quotes on Married Life to Encourage You and Strengthen Your Marriage

24 Quotes on Married Life to Encourage You and Strengthen Your Marriage

Kate Motaung2025-03-18T15:51:26+00:00March 3rd, 2022|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

A significant portion of the United States is married and adding the people across the world that are married now, and those that have been married across the ages, and you have yourself a deep pool of wisdom about marriage to draw from. There are many passages of Scripture that address husbands and wives, and that shape our understanding of marriage. This article is focused on how people take those many passages, reflecting on them and the wisdom they’ve gleaned. In other words, the following quotes on married life show how various people have tried to make sense of marriage and how to do married life well. Married life is a mass of complexities. That’s because people are complicated, and when two people are married to one another, that complication only increases. Couples love one another, have squabbles, laugh together, make love, welcome others into their home, work through problems, forgive one another, deal with sickness, grieve and rejoice together – in short, they do life together with all its ups and downs. Valencia Christian Counseling offers faith-based support to help couples navigate the challenges of marriage, strengthen their bond, and build a Christ-centered relationship. 24 Quotes on Married Life Into all this, God has given his wisdom through Scripture, and he has also given his people the Spirit to discern how to live in light of Scripture. May the following quotes on married life bless you and your spouse as you reflect on the amazing gift that is marriage. Like a soft, deep layer of mulch, transparency in your marriage will keep most weed seeds dormant and unable to sprout. – Barbara Rainey Have a good and godly marriage that shows the world Christ's love through how you sacrificially love and serve one another. – John Stange A [...]

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10 Bible Passages About Grief

10 Bible Passages About Grief

Kate Motaung2025-03-18T16:30:32+00:00February 16th, 2022|Featured, Grief Counseling, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

Though it is a natural part of life, we don’t like grief, and it can make us and others around us feel awkward and uncomfortable. Still, everyone will face occasions for grief since loss comes in many forms: the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job or an opportunity, the loss of a relationship, the loss of physical abilities associated with aging or illness, and even moving which involves the losses of neighborhood, community, and associations such as your church or gardening club. Valencia Christian Counseling offers compassionate, faith-based support to help individuals process grief and find healing through God’s comfort and wisdom. 10 Helpful Bible Passages about Grief The Bible offers a forthright approach to grief and can provide tremendous comfort for those who grieve. The Bible can also give you words for comforting others in their times of grief. Below are ten Bible passages about grief. There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, … a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… – Ecclesiastes 3:1-2, 4 You will have experiences common to everyone, such as birth and death, planting and harvesting, weeping, and laughing, mourning, and dancing. You can probably fill in the blanks with times and seasons of your own, like working and resting, sleeping, and rising, learning, and teaching, parenting, and grandparenting. Each of these activities may also present the risk of grief that comes with the inherent risks involved with loving others. However, the circle will keep turning, and times and seasons will change. You can take comfort in the knowledge that others understand [...]

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3 Ways to Listen When Someone Shares about Their Mental Health

3 Ways to Listen When Someone Shares about Their Mental Health

Caitlin Mallery2025-03-18T16:41:24+00:00February 7th, 2022|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Relationship Issues|

Helping people with their mental health is not as simple as changing diets or taking medications. Having a community of compassionate listeners is essential to the well-being of the brokenhearted, the anxious, and the depressed. Perhaps you have a friend who has just shared their struggle with depression after a significant loss. Maybe your sister reveals that she has panic attacks in certain situations. You could have learned that your child has anxiety, ADHD, or is on the autism spectrum. Valencia Christian Counseling offers faith-based support and guidance to help individuals and families navigate mental health challenges with wisdom, compassion, and biblical truth. A recent trauma could cause a significant change in your spouse’s behaviors and attitudes. As a compassionate individual, you want to be present in supporting the people you love through their mental health journey. Listening is one of the most crucial skills that you can learn in communication. This may be challenging if you are a rapid-fire analytical person. Some may be naturally gifted at listening, or just tend to be quieter, but even if that describes you, there may still be ways that you can improve your ability. As with many skills, you will become better with practice and patience. Even the chattiest people can learn to become amazing listeners. Three Ways to Listen to Someone Sharing about their Mental Health When someone is experiencing mental health struggles, they long for a feeling of safety and acceptance. You can give that to them by being a good listener. You will become a trusted resource for them as they heal and learn to live with their struggle. Listening with Your Ears The ears are the body part with which you take in sounds. This will be where you start the practice of listening, but certainly not [...]

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