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About Caitlin Mallery

Caitlin Mallery is a freelance writer, mother of four, avid reader, and amateur gardener from the Pacific Northwest. When she is not writing or chauffeuring children hither, thither, and yon, she works as a hospital chaplain. “Working in spiritual care as a hospital chaplain has given me a window into the ways that physical, mental, and spiritual health intertwine. I take a holistic view of personhood in my writing and life. I bring my training in spiritual direction and former CNA to my writing and hope you find it compassionate and useful.” You can read more by Caitlin on Substack.

Bible Verses about Friendship and Community

2024-10-03T12:57:56+00:00April 22nd, 2024|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

Looking for Bible verses about friendship and community? If so, this article is for you. Lack of friendship and a sense of community produces loneliness which is currently one of the greatest crises on both a national and international level. “The World Health Organization (WHO) has declared loneliness to be a pressing global health threat, with the US surgeon general saying that its mortality effects are equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.” As people become more transitory in their lives, work for large corporations from their dining rooms, and their social lives consist of scrolling social media, a life of loneliness is easy to slip into. However, both medical and psychological science have done a great deal of research on the importance of relationships in human beings. This is not just in terms of marital and familial relationships. A community of friends and neighbors supporting and caring for one another is vital in the truest sense of the word, life-giving. Not all relationships and friendships are equally intimate, but they should all offer something of value, whether it be a neighbor to watch your pets when you are away, weekly small groups or book clubs, or the larger community of a church. Bible Verses About Friendship and Community What Jesus said Jesus created a group of intimate friends to share in the work of the kingdom of God. And the identifying marker of that kingdom is loving one another. A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. – John 13:34-35, NIV Your brothers and sisters in Christ are the people with whom you should cultivate caring and supportive relationships. The earliest [...]

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Tips for Preventing and Recovering from Teacher Burnout

2024-10-03T12:57:35+00:00March 29th, 2024|Featured, Individual Counseling, Professional Development|

When you decided to become a teacher you most likely had a passion, a fire if you will, for the career you wanted to embark on. It could have been passion for the topic you teach, passion for the students you could reach, or you were inspired by a teacher you had in your childhood. But today, that fire feels small, maybe even dead. You are struggling with mustering up even a little enthusiasm for the career you started. You may be struggling with teacher burnout. According to one Gallup survey, the rate of teacher burnout is 14% higher than in other industries. The ongoing challenges of larger classroom sizes, wages not meeting the cost of living, and dealing with many other stressors all lead to an increase in the reality and likelihood of teachers feeling burnt out in their jobs. Common signs of teacher burnout: Feeling emotionally exhausted. Feeling like they are not making a difference. Having negative thoughts about their job. Being cynical about their students or colleagues. Feeling isolated and alone. Having physical symptoms like headaches, nausea, or fatigue. If you recognize these signs in yourself that is a good thing, because then you can do something about it. Several things can help you recover from and prevent teacher burnout. Set boundaries It is important to set boundaries around your time and energy. This means not taking work home, limiting the number of extracurricular activities you participate in, and refusing to work with difficult students or colleagues. It is recommended that you do not give your personal phone number to students or parents. You don’t need to be available outside of your contracted hours to the school. Take time off Make sure you take time off regularly, both during the school year and during the summer. [...]

Bible Verses about Forgiveness: The Wonder of Being Forgiven

2024-10-03T12:57:22+00:00August 3rd, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

In this article, we'll consider several Bible verses about forgiveness and what it means to forgive and be forgiven. Forgiveness is a hard thing for many to imagine. Holding grudges, and keeping a record of slights, big or small, real or perceived, is the natural tendency of humans. It is a tendency based on self-preservation. When trauma and hurt have occurred, the instinct toward self-preservation is heightened. So why should you practice forgiving the pains that others have caused you? Bible Verses about Forgiveness Who benefits from forgiveness? The answer may surprise you, but it is not the forgiven party, but rather the one doing the forgiving. There may even be times where the forgiven person has no idea that they hurt you in the first place. Forgiveness will ultimately have a much deeper impact on you. You will experience peace of mind and heart. You will be able to set boundaries with toxic people. You will have grace for mistakes. You will be patient when things become complicated. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. – Matthew 18:21-22, NIV This practice of forgiveness is not often a once-and-done experience. You may need to search your heart and do so repeatedly. By bringing it to God you become more aware of his great mercy and forgiveness toward you. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. – Colossians 3:13, NIV Do you need it? The short answer is YES. The longer answer is you probably don’t even know all the things for which you [...]

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3 Ways to Listen When Someone Shares about Their Mental Health

2024-10-03T12:57:13+00:00February 7th, 2022|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Relationship Issues|

Helping people with their mental health is not as simple as changing diets or taking medications. Having a community of compassionate listeners is essential to the well-being of the brokenhearted, the anxious, and the depressed. Perhaps you have a friend who has just shared their struggle with depression after a significant loss. Maybe your sister reveals that she has panic attacks in certain situations. You could have learned that your child has anxiety, ADHD, or is on the autism spectrum. A recent trauma could cause a significant change in your spouse’s behaviors and attitudes. As a compassionate individual, you want to be present in supporting the people you love through their mental health journey. Listening is one of the most crucial skills that you can learn in communication. This may be challenging if you are a rapid-fire analytical person. Some may be naturally gifted at listening, or just tend to be quieter, but even if that describes you, there may still be ways that you can improve your ability. As with many skills, you will become better with practice and patience. Even the chattiest people can learn to become amazing listeners. Three Ways to Listen to Someone Sharing about their Mental Health When someone is experiencing mental health struggles, they long for a feeling of safety and acceptance. You can give that to them by being a good listener. You will become a trusted resource for them as they heal and learn to live with their struggle. Listening with Your Ears The ears are the body part with which you take in sounds. This will be where you start the practice of listening, but certainly not where you end it. Your ears are just the vehicle of audio input, and your brain is doing a lot of work to [...]

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