Codependency

Codependency is a common problem that can be hard to spot on your own. The codependent person has too much dependence on another person, though they may be high functioning themselves. Problems can develop over time as the relationship becomes more imbalanced. But when the power is balanced between two people, there is hope for recovery. Since codependency can be difficult to see, it’s helpful to get a third-party viewpoint from a caring counselor. The counselor’s objective stance can help you identify your problems so you can work toward biblical solutions. Power Struggles in Codependency Every codependent relationship suffers from a power struggle. It’s challenging to get out of these power imbalances on your own. However, a counselor can help you see signs of codependency issues like these in your relationships. One person does most of the taking while the other does most of the giving, and the giver is resentful of this imbalance. The codependent feels that their purpose in life is defined by what they contribute to the relationship. The codependent finds it hard to say no even when a no answer is appropriate. The codependent makes excuses for the other person’s negative behavior and might even take responsibility for it. One person may feel trapped in a relationship while the other may feel smothered. The codependent may be overly concerned about the other person to the neglect of his or her own needs. The codependent has an inflated view of the other person and puts a great deal of estimation into what the other person thinks of them. One or more of these characteristics may indicate a problem with codependency. Though these problems are often deeply rooted, they can be treated with the guidance and wisdom of a Christian counselor. If you struggle with codependency, they [...]