Anger in the Book of Proverbs

The Bible offers much wisdom when it comes to understanding emotions and mental health. Proverbs, especially, has a lot to say on the topic of anger. The timeless truths in the book of Proverbs are well worth unpacking and examining because many apply to the situations we face today.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger – Proverbs 15:1, NIV

We must all face conflict at some point in our lives. This can be a scary thing for many of us, especially those who grew up in homes that never experienced shouting, harsh words, or arguments. Valencia Christian Counseling can help you develop healthy communication and conflict-resolution skills rooted in faith and understanding.

A benefit of being conflict-avoidant is that gentle communication is often the very thing that de-escalates a fiery exchange. Answering an angry person softly and being gentle with your words will catch the person off-guard and create space for calmer communication.

Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city – Proverbs 16:32, NIV

It can feel empowering to vent anger because doing so will often get results. For example, bosses often express their anger at employees because they are in a position of power and may get away with it without losing their jobs. However, it will come at a cost. The atmosphere in the workplace will be affected, not to mention the mental health of the workers.

Mature leaders know that valuing relationships is better for the longevity of business. The angry boss would do better to take time to investigate what frustrates him and communicate from a place of knowledge rather than anger. This principle applies to all types of relationships. Cool heads and patience will always prevail over outbursts and tantrums.

A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them and you will have to do it again. – Proverbs 19:19, NIV

Every parent knows that there is a time to step back and let their stubborn child do the thing they’re intent on doing. Sometimes this is the only way to learn. There are people in our lives who never learn their lesson.

They allow their temper and impatience to get the best of them again and again. In times like these, it is best to let them forge ahead and do what they are intent on doing. Allow them to learn from their consequences. Anger and impatience often keep us from listening to logic and reason.

A gift given in secret soothes anger, a bribe concealed in the cloak pacifies great wrath. – Proverbs 21:14, NIV

There are times in our relationships when one partner is hurt and stewing in anger, while the other one wants reconciliation. An effective way of bridging the distance and beginning the process of clearing the air is to tap into their love language.

It could be gifts, a gesture, an affectionate word, some quality time, or physically letting them know that you are ready to fix things. The first step to quelling anger and bridging communication gaps often needs to be a measurable, and sometimes physical, token of trust and apology.

Finding help with anger

Anger can be destructive, but a complicated thing to tame. Facing anger issues in yourself or a loved one does not need to be a burden you carry alone. You can talk to someone about it in a safe and confidential space. Contact us at Valencia Christian Counseling today to begin the process of finding a counselor in Valencia suited to your needs.