Individual Counseling

People who seek individual counseling often want to grow in self-awareness. They are struggling with hurts and hang-ups that are common to many and want to be free from the bondage they are suffering.

You probably know it’s difficult to learn and grow all on your own. That’s why Christian counseling can be so helpful. As you attend counseling sessions, you’ll gain an objective viewpoint from a trustworthy third party. You’ll also have a safe, private space to discuss whatever is bothering you. It will feel like a relief to let some things out in the open, perhaps for the first time.

At our counseling office, we have helped many people overcome a variety of issues through individual counseling. These are some of the most common issues in which we have helped our clients experience victory.

Trauma from Childhood

All children experience some trauma during childhood. You may have experienced big-T trauma, like natural disasters, abuse, or loss of a parent. Alternately, you may have experienced small-T traumas like rejection, sibling rivalry, loneliness, or any number of other problems.

These traumas may be affecting you today in ways you may not realize. They can have an impact on your stress levels, relationships, and even your health. To release the control these traumas have on you, a counselor can shed light on the problems of the past and show you how the roots of dysfunction are affecting you now.

For example, if your parents got divorced, you may be dealing with the trauma of that split even today. You may not realize the problems with your spouse are related to unprocessed trauma from the divorce. The divorce may still be affecting the way you perceive the world and others around you. But a caring Christian counselor can help you untangle those webs of trauma so you can move forward with greater peace.

If you are a victim of physical, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse during your childhood, it’s important to seek help from a counselor now. Your problems can be managed with gentleness and compassion in our counseling offices in Valencia. Hope and healing are within your reach, and we can help you find them.

Many different crises have long-term effects on children, including car wrecks, fires, illnesses, natural disasters, or the death of loved ones and pets. You may still experience aftershocks of the effects of these traumas. However, your counselor can point out ways God wants to heal you and redeem the pain you experienced in the past.

Problems with Boundaries

So many of us have never learned how to establish healthy boundaries. You need boundaries to function well in your personal and professional life. If you have problems with boundaries, your counselor can help you solve them and learn new ways of relating.

Some people struggle to say the word “no” with confidence. Because they have not learned how to establish this boundary, others constantly take advantage of them. If this is your case, you may also struggle with people-pleasing or codependency. However, you can learn how to say no with a counselor’s help.

Your counselor will coach you on saying no with confidence. In your sessions, you’ll learn when you are triggered to say yes when you want to say no. You’ll also be able to role-play saying no with the counselor. so you are better prepared in your relationships.

Some people resist hearing the word “no” from others. If this is your case, you may also struggle with anger, aggression, and manipulation. Your counselor can help you learn to set boundaries on yourself when you are triggered. The new, healthy boundaries will set you free.

Relationship Issues

Individual counseling is a great way to deal with relationship issues. It’s not always wise or possible to discuss problems in the presence of your offender. Your counselor can help you discover the roots of the problems in the relationships so you will be empowered to handle them with greater strength.

For example, if you have a problematic relationship with your boss, you may not feel free to discuss your feelings with him. But you can problem-solve with your counselor, so you are better prepared to handle demanding situations with your boss.

Whether you have relationship issues with family members, friends, dating partners, coworkers or supervisors, church members, or community members, your counselor is equipped to teach you how to manage the problems with greater clarity and strength.

Also, if you are attending marriage or family counseling, individual counseling can be a helpful supplement to your sessions. You can work out some of the issues on a one-to-one basis so you can rejoin the group sessions with more wisdom.